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Shannon Primer, of Carlsbad, California has a blog, pitaup.com.
The Escape From Autism Prison, by Shannon Primer
I am thankful that my child with Autism was my 4th child and not my first. I had no choice in the matter of staying home and becoming a prisoner. I hope all you new parents keep trying, keep going out in public. Just do it small and build on it. Go to dinner at 3 pm when very few people are eating, work up to going at 4 pm with the old people, and then to 5 pm when it is busier. As a past server skip the 6 to 7 hours as it is not worth the wait nor is it worth adding to our kids issues.
…if you do not try you will always be a prisoner in your house
Keep trying, if you do not try you will always be a prisoner in your house and you will end up being one of those terrible stats of parents who kill themselves and their children.
Also reach out, meet your children’s classmates parents. There is support in numbers. There is also more services when you connect with other parents and figure out what services are available. Networking is everything in the world of Autism.
The truth of the matter is most of the parents I know with Kids with Autism are always teaching manners, unfortunately we do it around meltdowns.
If only the NT (neurotypical) parents around us would teach manners and compassion. I do not know how many days I stand at the park and make my almost 10-year-old wait for his turn while 18-month-olds to 10-year-olds cut him off and push him out of the way while their parents chat on the phone or look at their laptop. The playground is not a break for parents, its supposed to be a bonding experience, unfortunately most parents have missed the memo!!!
-Shannon Primer, www.pitaup.com